Journal Entry – 013

We forgot to have our picture taken at our wedding anniversary dinner. I have to try to remember to have photos taken at important days like this. The point is not to share the photo on social media, but to save it so we can look back on it in the future.

Nerd Fitness says that we shouldn't stretch before working out, we should do warm-ups instead.

3/60 Rule: Log on to social media no more than 3 times a week (using a laptop/desktop, on a schedule) for no more than 60 minutes total. - I don't use this rule as I only use Instagram on weekends, but this might be useful for other people trying to cut down on their social media usage.

Went to the outlet mall to buy a black suit for my cousin's debut. Found a good affordable one at Van Heusen. Their white dress shirts though were not good, so I ended up buying one at Brooks Brothers for 50% off.

Had late lunch with the wife at Chuy's. I got the Macho Burrito with their Creamy Jalapeno sauce; really good combo. Wife had the combo fajitas as usual, which are also pretty good.

At Chuy's, there were a number of kids that were stuck on their phones the whole time. I don't want Davin to be like that. We need to come up with a way to get Davin off the phone/tablet eventually.

An idea I had is to use Instagram for sharing my journal entries on my private account. The idea being to take a screenshot of my post and share that in Instagram. – I started doing this the past few weeks on my private Instagram account. I don't really know if it works. I'm also losing motivation to keep doing it. I just added a link to this journal on my profile and will probably leave it at that.

I finally convinced my wife to read Dan Brown's “Origin” book again. I hope she finishes it this time because I would really want to talk to her about all the topics discussed in the book.

Every hour I spent online was not spent in the physical world. Every minute I was engrossed in a virtual interaction, I was not involved in a human encounter. Every second absorbed in some trivia, was a second less for any form of reflection, or calm or spirituality. “Multi-tasking” was a mirage. This was a zero-sum question. I either lived as a voice online, or I lived as a human being in the world that humans had lived in since the beginning of time. – Andrew Sullivan

Powerful message here. Our online lives, should never be more important than living in the real world. As much as I like posting on here, I need to be mindful of the time I spend writing posts.

Why I stopped using Facebook reason #4? They sell my data. I'll probably expand on this in a separate post, or maybe not.

To avoid distractions when reading articles on blogs/websites, turn on reading mode/view. Most browsers nowadays have that feature.

You need to build an ability to just be yourself and not be doing something. That's what the phones are taking away. – Louis C.K.

Good point. If adults already struggle with this and I know I do, can you imagine kids growing up in this generation? I need to find a way for Davin to learn how to be comfortable with himself, without the need for a gadget to distract/entertain him.

The mania of our online lives reveals this: We keep swiping and swiping because we are never fully satisfied. – Andrew Sullivan

And this is by design too. Social media apps are designed to keep you addicted to swiping and scrolling until you lose track of time.

The other thing to realize here is, maybe social media will never provide you that thing that will keep you satisfied. Maybe the satisfaction that you're looking for is not found online, but can only be found by living in the real world.

Or maybe it can only be found in God. Like my teachers always used to say, “you can only find true rest and happiness in God.”

I was worried that the NBA Free Agency was going to start while I was in the middle of my digital declutter. I ended up just checking news about it once or twice a day. Turns out it is not that big of a deal to not constantly keep up with every bit of news about it.

Most news consumers – even if they used to be avid book readers, have lost the ability to absorb lengthy articles or books. After four or five pages they get tired, their concentration vanishes, they become restless. It's not because they got older or their schedules became more onerous, it's because the physical structure of their brain has changed. – Rolf Dobelli

I have the same problem. Can't keep my concentration or focus long enough. It was worse when I was still addicted to my smartphone and social media. It's gotten better after I embarked on my digital minimalism journey, but it is still not where I want it to be.

The practice of writing down programming problems into a work journal, seems really helpful in coming up with solutions to said problems.

I'm somewhat torn between following Scott Hanselman's advice on building your personal brand online and Cal Newport's advice on letting your work speak for itself. Cal thinks that leveraging social media to try to get yourself out there is a distraction, instead you could use that time to produce high quality work and improve your skills. – I wrote that on my bullet journal months ago. I obviously am not a fan of social media, having not been on Facebook for a year now and recently deactivating my public Instagram account. I still think building my personal brand is important for my career as a software developer, but I've decided to not use social media to try to get myself noticed. I think keeping my dev blog updated with monthly posts is good enough. I actually want to prove that you can be a successful software developer without having to be on social media.

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